As you may or may not know or care; I have been debating whether to continue with Making It All Fit.
After going over my charges with my husband the decision was made.
He didn’t make it. He didn’t say you have to stop doing this.
I just saw how much money I spent (yes spent, not invested) with 0 results and I couldn’t do it anymore.
He was asking me questions about each line item. It was either some high end coaching, product or program; most of which I forgot I even purchased in the first place.
Every year we go through these shenanigans. Me feeling so foolish and him bewildered!
What is different from the past is that this time I was ready to say goodbye.
I am tired of feeling like a fool. It is embarrassing and shameful.
I gave it everything I had. I gave Making It All Fit my recovery, my body, my self-respect.
I allowed people to walk all over me for the sake of Making It All Fit.
Making It All Fit was my baby and I am grieving her leaving me.
It isn’t a death but more of the end of a very stressful chapter.
I remember when I started down this road; I believed that building a business was simple; if I just took action the results would show themselves.
It didn’t work that way with me. I worked my ass bigger and saw very little.
The most I ever earned was 8000 for the YEAR.
Even if you give everything you have success is not guaranteed.
Sometimes quitting is the most courageous act.
Tweeting me might not only help you but someone else in twitter land: Tweet: Sometimes quitting is the most courageous act.
I thought: maybe a new website would help: NO
Maybe if I change my mission that will help: NO
Maybe if I “acted as if: I was successful then I would be successful: Bullsh*t..
I am being negative and I mean to be negative. After all, I can be negative on my blog because it is mine.
Plus, most people don’t have courage to say they failed until they were successful again.
I have the “Cahoonas”. I will tell you I failed and I will tell you that I cried.
I have gone a week without washing my hair.
I have lived in sweatpants over the last 2 months.
I have dodged phone calls from friends and “not so friends”.
Yeah, I was a bit depressed, so what?
I am allow ourselves to be sad, angry and mad. Too many people are afraid of these feelings.
Oh I know that there is a lesson.
I know that I really didn’t fail; I just know what doesn’t work for me.
I am continuing to wear my sweats.
Ok, I will start washing my hair.
Yet, I refuse to not grieve.
I am sad yet I know this is the best decision.
I will keep writing this blog because I love to write. It is purifying and cleansing for me to get my feelings out.
Your turn: What have you failed at that was later seen as a blessing? Do you have any words of wisdom for me? Please share in the comments below.
Stress and Sleep (lack of) will ruin your spring and I just cannot let that happen. I am all about you getting your sleepy time on schedule so you can enjoy all the ripe colors and longer days.
On Tuesday, I shared how stress and sleep have a dysfunctional relationship and gave you some tips on how to sleep like a baby. You can read it here.
Yesterday, I created a step by step system that you can use immediately. These tips will decrease your stress while increasing your sleep. It is a free download that you can access here.
So today, I thought you might enjoy this video from Kate Schrup MPH and I thought it was very interesting.
What she demonstrates is so simple and you can do it on a plane, train or automobile.
Speaking of simple….
If you are stressed and sleepy; it may seem like the answer has to be complicated.
Think back to something that you overcame. Got it?
I am sure the work was hard but was the solution complicated?
The hardest part has to do with letting go of your resistance and surrendering to the fact that maybe your solution is simple.
Can I share an example with you?
I am usually a sound sleeper, but during a stressful time sleep was not my friend.
I began to freak out which made me more stress and sleep became even harder to obtain.
So when I woke up, I would go downstairs and put the headphones on and watch TV until I fell back asleep.
I missed my workouts and felt guilty and mad with only increased my stress and decreased my sleep.
At first I changed everything around. I moved mattresses, gobbled melatonin, and tried to go to sleep earlier.
When these big changes affected my stress and sleep even more, I knew what I had to do.
I gave away the headphones.
I took them to the Good Will store up the street.
I could not watch TV downstairs without the headphones because it would wake my husband. Without those wireless contraptions, the TV had to stay off.
It really is simple but it won’t be easy.
This simple salty activity may be a bit woo woo. You may think that there has to be a kinder and gentler way.
Just like I did; take your thoughts to Good Will and give them away and then try this ritual
Check out the video and let me know what you think!
Yesterday, I gave you some quick tips to help you with your stress and sleep. Those tips are fine, but I wanted more for you.
I wanted you to know the effects of a dysfunctional stress and sleep relationship.
- Have a compromised brain because it does not have the time it needs to replenish, refuel and refresh.
- Cravie more sugar for energy.
- Have a low sex drive
- Are more likely for heart attacks, strokes, heart failure.
- Look older
- Feel more depressed
- Your ability to handle stress disappears.
- Brain degeneration disorders such as Alzheimers
My mother-in-law had a horrible time sleeping. No matter how much sleeping medication she swallowed she still couldn’t sleep.
When she was really sleep deprived she would hallucinate; swearing that she saw her dead relatives and forgetting that she ate.
We thought that she had the beginning of Alzheimers; luckily just a good nights sleep would relieve those symptoms.
Hours of sleep is not the answer to your sleep. Something else even more important comes into play
I have created a little handout for you that explains why longer sleep does not equal better sleep.
I also show you how to get to sleep and stay to sleep and even how to go back to sleep when you wake in the middle of the night.
Finally, I help you set up your bed for bedtime I hope you enjoy it!
I was going to have you opt in then I changed my mind because I have something super cool that will go deeper into this stress and sleep phenomenon. It is so close to completion and
I know you are going to love it, so stay tuned.
Pick up your Sleep Like A Baby Gift Here.
I would love to help you! Would you take a few minutes to share your thoughts about stress and sleep? To be specific, how do you feel when you wake in the morning? Just respond AHHH or ERRR. I will know what you mean!